A year ago, my tennis team did not experience many relational problems between teammates.  Everyone was getting along and communicating as a team.  We were the closest team at CNU in my opinion.  We did everything together.  We trained together, ate lunch and dinner with each other, went out with each other, and helped each other out if anyone experienced problems.  However, this season was very different.  Some of my teammates were not on the same page with each other, which led to confrontation during match play.  During a practice, not an actual match against another team but at practice, two of my teammates went up against each other in a practice match.  Throughout their match, there were many disputes about the score, but none bigger than the dispute that happened near the end of the match.  To distinguish the two men, they were Robbie and Lorenzo.

Nearing the end of their match, Robbie made a close line call on his match point.  Lorenzo was absolutely furious at the line call.  He immediately jumped the net and got right in Robbie’s face.  The two argued back and forth and were look like they were about ready to fight one another.  The entire team (including the coaches) wanted to let Robbie and Lorenzo work it out on their own.  My team and coaches took the masculine approach to this conflict, as would other men on different sports teams.  They feel as though outside interference was needed; however, the way this was escalating, and the role as a captain on my team, I felt as though I needed to step in and cool things off.  My job was to try and support each of my teammates in this situation.  My input into this situation was essential.  I wanted to calm each other down so there weren’t any flaws in our team chemistry.  I was very genuine and concerned with keeping their relationship and our team’s relationship in tact.  Both teammates took it upon themselves to shake each other’s hand and apologize.  At other times than this situation, I would be looking at confrontation and possibly joking about it with my teammates and let them work it out.  However, not on this day.  My feminine side was exploited when I was concerned about my teammates’ attitudes and feelings.

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